by Tim Connor
Over the years, I have considered the difference between people who consistently do well in life - their careers and relationships and people who struggle.
One of the discoveries I have made is that the successful people have learned to ask the right questions of themselves and others. They have the courage to face the answers they get - even though they might be uncomfortable, cause personal unrest or cause them to change a belief, habit pattern or philosophy.
If you have not yet learned to ask yourself the right questions about:
- life balance
- personal growth
- and the list goes on and on...,
you may find yourself stuck in a position or way of life that is less than satisfying and/or filled with stress, struggle and more uncertainty.
What do I mean by asking the right questions? Let me give you a brief example.
Let's say you are struggling with a career decision. Here are a few sample questions you can ask. Note how each succeeding question probes deeper.
- Why am I unhappy in this career?
- What would I like to change?
- What is preventing me from making those changes?
- What is it about the new circumstances that cause uncertainty?
- Why am I afraid of the consequences of the potential circumstances?
- Why do I struggle with the issue of uncertainty?
- What do I need to feel secure?
- When will I know I have this security?
- Why is that so important to me?
Get the point -
Your questions will vary greatly depending on the subject. You can't develop a simple template that will work in your career as well as in a relationship. Spend the time developing AND asking yourself the right questions, and you will be amazed at how quickly you can cut through all of the mental crap that prevents your continued growth and success.
Now it is your turn. What area of your life needs some improvement? Why not develop a list of questions you can ask yourself to see where the trouble lies. Remember: