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Is your business or career in touch with realtiy

October 17th, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit

– Are you in touch with reality when it comes to your business or career?

100,000's of thousands of businesses have failed this year. Millions of people are struggling with career decisions/changes and often remain stuck causing economic chaos for them now and in the future. Next year these numbers will likely be the same or become even higher and why?

Simple – they are no longer relevant – to their customers or the marketplace.

Why does a restaurant chain fail while others survive? Why does Borders fail while Amazon flourishes? Why do country clubs fail while others prosper? Why does any organization in any industry fail while others in the same industry and same market prosper? I will guarantee that you personally know someone or some business that has failed in the past 12 months and why did they fail? At the risk of being redundant – relevance.

Let me repeat – it's primarily that they have lost relevance. So what is relevance and why do so many organizations lose it?

Relevance – being connected:having some sensible or logical connection with something else such as a matter being discussed or investigated. Having social significance:having some bearing on or importance for real-world issues, present-day events, or the current state of society or business.

Now my definition – the ability to bring real world experience, reality and perceptions into decisions, actions, activities and behavior that maintain a connection between your business's products and services and buyer needs, wants and trends and the direction of market, technology and social influences.

There are nine aspects to consider when it comes to this issue of relevance. Yes, there are several others but I believe that all of the others are just sub texts of the following items. (They are not in any special order of importance – you can decide if any particular item is getting in the way of your ability to keep your business or career relevant.)

Timing – The light bulb has changed. Fax machines are losing their importance. Cars no longer have bumpers. Landlines are becoming extinct when it comes to the primary way people communicate. Think these changes have slowed or stopped? Think again. In the next five years at the outside nothing will look anything like it does today. Change is happening faster today than at any time in history. And the pace of change is increasing. If you are not ahead of the curve – you are behind it.

Ego – Ego insists that a person's views, attitudes, beliefs and mindsets are right. A person's ego often gets in the way of their ability to see reality as this ego filter prevents any new or creative ideas from getting through it giving the person the ability to see what is rather than what they believe is. I could go on for pages listing the number of organizations that have failed in the past five years simply because the person or people leading it could not get their egos out of the way.

Emotional maturity – Emotional maturity is the ability to see past personal conditioning influences and prejudices and accept that the world and all its circumstances are not that way you hope it is or will be. It is the willingness to change views, opinions, attitudes that no longer serve your best interests.

The ability to embrace change – The only thing that is not changing in the world today is that change will be with us every minute of every day moving forward. All change impacts each of us in some way either directly or indirectly. Think of a business that failed that you used to frequent. Think of a website that you used to rely on that is no longer available. Think of a "favorite" anything that no longer exists. Is change good or bad? It depends on how you evaluate it, respond to it and re-invent yourself as a result of it.

Creativity – Every employee can bring creative ideas and solutions to current challenges and issues. However many employees keep these to themselves for fear of potential criticism or invalidation. There are always creative solutions to any problem, but if you are unwilling to consider or embrace new or unique approaches you will tend to stay stuck in the past and strategies that are no longer effective or productive.

Arrogance – Arrogance is a close cousin of ego. It is a mindset that you are superior or smarter than others regardless of the topic or situation. It has been my experience that a major contributor of all business failures is arrogance. It is grounded in inappropriate superiority, control, ignorance or dominance.

Knowledge – Knowledge is different than information. The internet is flooded with more new information every minute of every day than any human can ever possibly keep up with even if they lived a million years. Information is a tool but the problem is that all information can be prejudiced in some way. Add to this that when information becomes available to us we can either tune it out or embrace it. Knowledge is taking relevant information and deciding how it will impact your career, business, relationships or life. Knowledge development requires introspection and consideration and not just assumptions and quick responses that may often be wrong or inappropriate. If you make important decisions with information only and not knowledge you will tend to make poor decisions.

Connection – There are many ways to keep your connections alive and well today. Consider all of the social media opportunities and websites not to mention the tremendous use of texting today and the thousands of available Apps. For years prior to the onslaught of technology people talked to each other, sat around dinner tables and shared feelings and met in person to communicate fears, dreams and plans. I am not against technology as it can be a very powerful tool to keep in touch with your customers, employees and family members but I would caution you if you are relying too heavily on this trend and losing the human touch – beware. When was the last time you asked a customer in person and not with an email or survey their impression of your product or service? Do you spend routine time the field with a salesperson or employee? When was the last time you had a "real" conversation with your spouse or one of your kids?

Mindsets – A mindset is a personal way of seeing and interpreting outside circumstances, people and situations. When your prejudices remain stuck regardless of current reality and these mindsets prevent you from making better and more appropriate decisions you are setting yourself or your business up for potential failure.

I'll leave you with a thought and a question.

Any organization or individual, if they are to stay the test of time must remain relevant to it's customers, prospects, market and stay connected to evolving trends.

Are you willing to seriously consider the issue of relevance and any or all of the above items?

Make it a tremendous year, In His service, Tim

Take the Relevance quiz today – see if you need to make some changes

October 10th, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit-Take the Relevance quiz now – see if you need to make some

Take the Relevance Quiz Now

Ten's of thousands of organizations fail every year and the common reason for each of them failing is simply – they are no longer RELEVANT. Their policies, products or services or their marketing strategies have lost their significance or importance and they have not kept up with consumer trends, needs or buying patterns or habits. Failure or sustained success does not depend on your history, experience, products/services, size or market or market share but your ability to stay ahead of the curve – to stay RELEVANT no matter – the economy, market conditions or competition.

Don't become a casualty! To ensure your business or career continues to be of value and prospers now and in the future requires one basic approach – you must stayRELEVANTor you will fail. I suggest you have some of your employees answer these questions as well to ensure your interpretation of the results is not prejudiced.

 

Take the Relevance Quiz – NOW

1) Your personal/business income has remained constant for the past 3-5 years. Yes No

2) Your personal/business income has steadily increased during the past 3-5 years. Yes No

3) You are losing an increased amount of business to competitors. Yes No

4) Your customer loyalty is consistently improving. Yes No

5) Your new customer acquisition is constantly improving. Yes No

6) Your new product/service initiatives are not resonating with the market/customers. Yes No

7) Sales of your basic products or services are declining. Yes No

8) The sales cycle of your products or services is taking longer. Yes No

9) You are finding that you need to reduce prices or fees to maintain business. Yes No

10) The number of competitors in your business is increasing. Yes No

11) More of your business today is internet driven. Yes No

12) Business from social media is insignificant. Yes No

13) Your ego is a major factor when it comes to developing creative approaches. Yes No

14) You are stuck with 'sacred cows' in your inventory. Yes No

15) Your sales conversion rate is declining. Yes No

16) Your marketing budget has significantly increased to keep up with market trends. Yes No

17) Your promotion efforts are yielding consistent positive exposure and results. Yes No

18) You or your staff are working harder and longer hours with less effective results. Yes No

19) Your phone ringing off the hook with new business or customers. Yes No

20) You are using an outside resource to help guide your activities and progress. Yes No

21) You know where you need to improve or change to achieve better results. Yes No

22) You consider yourself open minded and receptive to change. Yes No

23) You have attended a seminar, read a book or taken a course during the past 12 months on

improving creativity or imagination development techniques. Yes No

24) You or your staff spend routine time each month brainstorming creative new ideas. Yes No

25) You are always open and receptive to new or creative ideas from your employees. Yes No

If more than 5 of your answers to the following items are Yes – you are losing RELEVANCE.

3, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 13, 14, 15, 16, 18

If more than 5 of your answers to the following items are N0 – you are losing RELEVANCE.

1, 2, 4, 5, 12, 17, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25

If you have a total of 10 of more combined wrong answers in the above two areas I urge you to take this issue ofcontinued RELEVANCEvery seriously.

O.K. so, how did you do? Ready for tomorrow or stuck in yesterday?

Make it a great week, In His Service, Tim

Are you stuck in destructive patterns

September 26th, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit – Stuck in destructive patterns?

Most people go through life in auto-pilot. In other words most of their; actions, behavior and decisions tend to be automatic based on previous behavior, entrenched mindsets, ingrained habits, early conditioning and reactions to previous circumstances therefore – experiences.

In many ways many of these actions can save us a great deal of time, energy and often resources for example – the route you follow to work each day, how long you spend in the shower, where you go for lunch and whether you read or watch the news every day.

From a career perspective these could include – when and how you plan, review your day, how frequently you check email and which calls you answer on your cell phone as the day passes.

Each person has hundreds of routines or life patterns that they are totally unaware of and are generally unconscious – they just move through their day from one activity to the next – one action to the next. A simple example is observe the way you dress every morning – I'll guarantee you put the same shoe on – right or left – every morning. Why, it makes life easier. If you had to think every minute of every day about many of these simple and routine actions it would take you forever to get dressed and get to work.

Some people use their free time to read while others watch television. Some people exercise at the same time every day and daily – do many of the same activities like praying, planning or setting goals while others spend a great deal of mental time worrying or fretting over yesterday or tomorrow.

In the end your routines in general either move you forward in life towards greater success, happiness and contentment or the opposite.

How you use your mental functions in the end, contributes to the overall quality of your life. Use your brain and thoughts as a positive tool and you will sooner or later receive positive outcomes. Use it as a negative tool and you will experience a great deal of stress, frustration, anxiety and disappointment.

The brain is a wonderful tool and when used properly you will be amazed at what you can accomplish. Fail to use its capabilities and you will, over time, discover that life just isn't turning out the way you would like.

Routines and habits can be a positive tool to save time and manage your moments – one at a time, but they can also cause you to waste time and resources.

There are four tools, actions or behaviors – you can use if you want to ensure that your routines and patterns are contributing to success rather than continued disappointment.

They are simply – attention, awareness, focus and action.

Attention – To get out of auto-pilot – and keep in mind this isn't always a negative activity – you have to put your attention on the now. You have to train your mind to stay in the present moment one moment at a time. This for most people is a very difficult task as their mind over time has been taught to focus on the past or the future. To give yourself the opportunity to stay in the present you need to develop new routines that allow you to mentally stop focusing on the past or the future. One routine I use is to keep a simple marble in my pocket. It represents "NOW". Whether I feel it when I sit down or put my hand in my pocket – it's a constant reminder to pay attention to NOW. Over time I don't need to do either as I have formed the mental reminder that this item is in my pocket. Simple? Stupid? Well, it works for me. It keeps my attention focused on now and not yesterday, tomorrow or what happened 5 minutes ago.

Awareness – Once you have trained yourself to pay attention, it's now necessary to create a positive awareness. This can often be accomplished by learning or forming the simple habit of asking yourself simple questions. Like; what's happening now? Why is it happening? What can I learn form this? Etc. These questions will tend to help you use your attention and awareness in a positive way.

Focus – Focus is similar to awareness with one exception – it is a decision to concentrate on what you choose to think about. All emotions are caused by thoughts. First a thought then the emotion. Someone says something that makes you angry. You first think about what they said – then you react emotionally. Focus is simply saying to yourself – I have a choice. I can choose my emotional response. I can get angry or I can choose to not let this person push my emotional buttons.

Action – And finally action. To pay attention, create awareness and then focus and not act is to waste the first three of these behaviors. Actions, regardless of what action you choose, when done from a mindset of attention and awareness will tend to be more in line with your objectives and goals than turning your life over to others or circumstances.

Action is required to create the outcomes you say you want but your actions must be conscious and not knee-jerk responses. Taking the right or best action seems to be a problem for many people as they tend to let others or circumstances drive their behavior, attitudes and life in general.  It's what I refer to as activity. There is wrong activity, activity in general just to keep busy and then the right activity. Which, in the end do you feel will move you forward rather than backward or keep you stuck?  

Make it a great week and a tremendous year, In His service, Tim

Why is common sense so uncommon today

September 5th, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit –  Whatever happened to common sense

The more I observe people today – from politicians, parents, business leaders and everyone in society, it amazes me how few people seem to have any common sense at all. One of my mentors and heroes Mark Twain was famous for saying – "We need to stop calling it common sense. This assumes that it is common and everyone has it. We need to start calling it un-common sense because so few people seem to have it." This was said over 100 years ago by a common man. Yes, he was famous by today's standards, but a common man he was.

When I observe the behaviors, attitudes, decisions and actions today of teenagers, parents, business leaders – I could list every profession and every station in life here, but I'm sure you know at least one person where common sense seems to have left them at birth, I find it hard to believe so few people have simple common sense.

What exactly is common sense? Let me try and give you what I feel is a common sense definition, but first how about a professional definition. "Sound practical judgment derived from experience rather than study. Or, words like – rational, reasonable, consistent, coherent, valid, logical or sound." OK, it's my turn.

Common sense is when you see a situation, decision or action in a way that loudly says – yes – both in the short and long term – this is a good or the best course of action. It doesn't matter what other people think or believe as their beliefs and attitudes are derived from their unique and varied sources of mental conditioning and upbringing. Common sense, when all things are considered is the only way to proceed based on a variety of factors; experience, knowledge, information, wisdom, objectives, potential hazards, real opportunities and an internal emotional comfort level. It's a state of mind similar to intuition, instinct or a hunch where it just feels right. But beware – if you proceed only based on feelings or emotions without considering some of the other factors above, you might just set yourself up for disappointment, frustration or even failure.

Some people would assume that the older you are the more common sense you would develop. WRONG. Some people would assume that the more education you have the more common sense you would have. WRONG. Some people would believe that the more experience you have had, the more common sense you would develop. WRONG. Some people assume that the smarter you are, the more common sense you will have. WRONG.

So why do so few people today seem to operate from a position of little or no common sense whatsoever? Well, from my perspective there are a number of reasons. Here are some of the most common ones:

– Personal agendas. Everyone has agendas. Some are noble while others are very self-serving or selfish. An agenda is nothing more than a life outlook or a mindset. But, this outlook, whether positive or negative will tend to have a significant role in how you behave, treat others or interpret life in general. It will often control all of your actions, choices, decisions and behaviors. A self-serving agenda will cause you to override what may be right or you feel is best for you alone.

– Poor perceptual understanding. Everyone sees life uniquely through a very personal mental filter. Something good for one person can be perceived as bad for the next person. It isn't about what is right or wrong or good or bad, but how each of us interprets the people and events in our life. Your personal filter will determine how you react or respond to life, people or circumstances. If your filter is cluttered with a great deal of past negative situations and outcomes you will tend to let these drive your behavior and not what makes sense given the current set of conditions.

– A history of mistakes, failure or errors in judgment. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes or poor decisions from time to time. The problem happens in the present when we let these memories have greater control over our present than what is really going on now. When we focus on either the past or the future and not reality, we will tend to bring a dysfunctional view to any circumstances therefore overriding what would seem to be right based on what is really going on now.

– Fear in general. There are only two emotions – love and fear. Fear tends to be the dominant emotion in most people most frequently. If you have a choice to feel hope or discouragement, joy or pain, acceptance or non-acceptance, because of the way the human brain is wired, most people will more often come from a fear position than one of love. (Not talking here about romantic love.) When you operate out of fear you will tend to critique your options, choices or circumstances in a pessimistic way. Common sense, the best or right thing to do, will be present, but it will be overridden by all of the fear threats and concerns.

– A concern for what or how others will think of them or about them. Many people who fail to use common sense are often more concerned about how others; view, define or feel about them or their behaviors or decisions than the person has or feels about themselves. I want you to like me, but me liking me is more important than you liking me. If I am being true to myself I may not make right decisions all of the time based on common sense, but at least I am making them for my reasons and not yours.

– Ego dysfunction. The ego wants to rule our lives. It doesn't like to look bad and it certainly wants to play a major role in all of our choices, actions and decisions. When common sense and ego are at odds – ego will win most of the time. It doesn't care what makes sense or is in your present or future best interests – it must rule your life it must make you look; good, smart, competent, successful etc. Common sense be damned – is its mantra.

– Greed, selfishness or narcissism. Greed is the number one cause of all crime and the need to own more, have more or do more whether we deserve it or have earned it. Greed speaks volumes when it comes to how people behave either overtly or subtly. Greed, if it drives you, will always override what is best or right for you or for others. Selfishness is nothing more than a self-centered way of looking at life. It is about what you get, have or own or who you are and how you behave towards others and life in general. Selfishness says – I am the only thing that matters, life revolves around me so just get on board and with me or you are against me. Narcissism is nothing more than excessive self-admiration and self-centeredness. In psychiatry, it is a personality disorder characterized by the patient's overestimation of his or her own appearance and abilities and an excessive need for admiration. Think these people will ever come from a position of common sense?

– Stuck in the past or future. The past with all its failures, mistakes, successes and achievements is gone. Living in either will cause a person to not see current circumstances in the proper perspective. Yes, both are important – past lessons and experiences as well as future goals and plans, but in the end what you do now matters more than what you will do tomorrow or have done in the past. Common sense blends the best from both yesterday and tomorrows and weaves them into appropriate and beneficial behaviors, actions and decisions now.

– The inability to turn information and knowledge into wisdom. Information is not wisdom. Knowledge is not wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to use information and knowledge in a right way given reality, potential outcomes, historical experience and personal objectives. When a person lacks common sense I don't care how many degrees they have, they will do dumb things for the wrong reasons and often regret them later in life.

– Emotional immaturity. No one matures at the same pace or rate. Each of us learns or fails to learn valuable lessons as we move from one year to the next in our lives. Emotional maturity is the ability to see or view circumstances in a way that you use your experience, wisdom, intuition and the available information at hand. A lack of emotional maturity is nothing more than a knee-jerk reaction to whatever happens, regardless of how stupid the action or decision is. No matter what, in our own mind we justify these often stupid behaviors and or actions.

Yes, there are many others, but if you feel you lack a credible amount of common sense and this lack is causing more pain than necessary, why not consider the above causes in terms of how you live, make decisions, interpret life, evaluate others or just go from day to day in your life.

I believe if we all had more common sense or used more of what we have we would experience far less stress, discouragement, frustration, anxiety or any other negative emotions due to life's uncertainty and adventure.

Want to gain more common sense or use more of what you have more often? Pay attention to the above items and stay focused in the present.

Make it a tremendous year, In His service, Tim

Can you detach or are you stuck in attachhment

August 15th, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit –  Attach – detach –

Here's the problem – most people do the first step but fail to do the second one.

What is attachment? It's when we own a belief, opinion, judgment, attitude or principle – whether right or wrong or good or bad. This ownership drives all of our emotions, decisions, actions and behavior. We attach to expectations, frustration, being right, judging others, our stressors and disappointments. We attach to our pain, guilt, obligations, goals, needs, problems, failures, achievements and successes. Again none of these are good or bad – right or wrong but we attach to them nonetheless.

How do we attach? We defend, argue, come from negative emotions like; fear, jealousy, guilt, resentment, anger and our ego. We need to make others wrong so we can feel right. We need to put others down so we can elevate ourselves. We need to know more, do better and have more to justify our values, beliefs and mindsets.

Attachment to anything is a negative experience and why?

Everything changes – one minute you succeed and the next minute you fail. One minute you are healthy and the next minute you ate sick. One minute you are happy and the next minute you are sad and why? Because we have turned over all of our emotions, feelings, beliefs and attitudes to other's influence or circumstances.

Why do we let these attachments rule our need for inner peace, our desire for happiness and the goal of success and achievement?

It's simple – because that's they way we have been trained and or conditioned to be, think, feel, react and behave by all of the influences in our life both past and present.

All of the people and or circumstances in your life now are doing nothing but reinforcing your current values and beliefs. That's why you have let them in – you need that constant validation even if your values, beliefs or attitudes are self-destructive and go against all you can be or all you can do.

For example;

You believe you are not smart enough, not good enough, not experienced enough, too old, too young, too – whatever. You believe that you deserve what you are achieving, you are a good person, you are kind and compassionate. See the distinction here? Regardless of you're beliefs – that's all they are beliefs. They are not necessarily true, but you behave as if they are for you. You own them. They drive you. They are you. And over the years you have become very comfortable with them.

Just think for a moment about someone you know that can push your emotional buttons? What do they say or do that causes you to react however you do? Ask yourself – when I act this way as a result of these pokes or even simple words or phrases from others or outside circumstances how do I feel? Is this really me? The answer is yes. But you can change. You can learn to let go of the control emotions, beliefs, attitudes have over you that no longer serve you or your best interests. You need to learn to detach.

What is detachment?

Detach is the opposite of attach – obviously – but what does this mean and why can't people learn to take this action? Detachment means; not taking things personal, never making assumptions and learning to let go of any destructive feeling, emotion, belief, value or attitude that no longer serves your highest self or for that matter – ever did.

Detachment is a form of surrender. You no longer feel the need to make others wrong, defend your position or views, be right, be smarter, have more etc. Detachment is nothing more than accepting what is in the present without looking back or forward for justification or a rationale that proves your way is right, good, better – whatever. How do you detach?

For starters you have to pay attention to all of your responses to others and outside circumstances. You have to learn to view them through a neutral microscope that is not prejudiced in any way. You have to let go of the attitude that these beliefs, values or mindsets are who you are. They are not you. They are just who you allowed yourself to become over time due to the prodding, urging, manipulation or pressure from others. You can let go of ownership. You can change. It isn't easy and it doesn't happen quickly but you can change and why? Because all of life is constantly changing including you. The difference is to now take direct control of how you change and why.

Learn to stop letting others or circumstances determine who you are, your value, how you respond and how you feel. Learn to have integrity between who you are, really are, how you are changing and who you are becoming. This is true emotional freedom – something we all want and are capable of achieving if we will do the inner work. 

Make ita tremendous year, In His service, Tim

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Self-accountability – the key to sustained success.

August 1st, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit-Self-accountability – the key to sustained success.

There are many traits that when embraced can contribute to enduring success. At last count when it comes to success, I found over; 25,000 books, 15 million articles on the net, 500,000 seminars of various kinds and 450,000 personal/career success coaches who proclaim they can guide your journey towards your dreams, desires and goals. That's a lot of resources folks. With all of these resources available to everyone – many free – you would have to wonder why so many people struggle in their search for success. Why is this?

For starters, I don't care how much time you spend every day studying success, researching success or working towards it. In the end you probably need less that one tenth of one percent of all of the available material to enjoy the benefits of success. So what's the problem? Simple – if you lack self-accountability no matter how much you read, study, learn and practice or believe you are doing all the right things – success will elude you. So why is this trait so vital when it comes to reaching the stars in your career or life?

What exactly is self-accountability? Well for starters it has a lot to do with intention, discipline and commitment. Commitment and discipline are very close cousins. Commitment is simply a decision to follow through, stick with something no matter what and not allow yourself to be derailed due to circumstances either planned for or unexpected. Discipline is a routine that you follow and don't permit yourself to have any reason or excuse not to stay the course. So as you can see if you have commitment and discipline you have a good chance for success but there are still two other factors that will determine your ultimate success and those are intention and self-accountability.

Intention is what you plan to do, say you will do and then – do. To say it or plan for it and not do it no matter how many words you give yourself or others is simply being a fraud. You are misleading yourself and not honoring your goals, mission, purpose or plans when you only say it and don't do it. This is a lack of intention no matter how often or well you try and delude yourself.

But the real one that will determine the ultimate success of commitment, discipline and intention is self-accountability. So again, what is this trait and how can you cultivate it or maintain it?

Self-accountability is holding yourself accountable. If you say you are going to do something and you don't do it and you don't hold yourself accountable you are essentially letting yourself off the hook and just kidding yourself. You are living in fantasy-land.

Without self-accountability all of the commitment, intention and discipline in the world won't help you achieve success – you must hold yourself accountable to your goals, plans, objectives and statements that are in alignment with these. You do this by developing benchmarks, consequences or measuring devices. A benchmark is guideline to help you determine your progress against some standard or objective. If you want to lose 20 pounds and you don't develop a daily or bi-weekly device to measure any deviation from your goal then it's nothing more than a wish or a hope. Therefore you develop a list of dates and weight loss goals to determine regular progress. If you miss the mark one day or one week you ask yourself why and then take corrective action.

Consequences can be a form of self-punishment. For example if you have a plan or goal to tithe 10% of your income and any week you don't do this you pay a price and the price should be determined in advance. No television for a week. No sweets for a week. No browsing the internet for a week. Whatever you choose for the consequences of not sticking with your plan have to hurt a bit otherwise they will not deter you from breaking your commitment again. Plus if you don't follow your plan and don't execute the consequence well, once again you are just kidding yourself.

This is self-accountability. To turn hopes and wishes into reality you have to measure progress against your benchmarks and when you don't reach a benchmark you evaluate why and change your approach or fix the problem. Excuses don't count and there are no legitimate reasons for not sticking to the plan. But to make the whole process work you need the plans, goals, benchmarks and then you must be relentless with your self-accountability.

Why don't people exhibit self-accountability when they say they are going to – whatever? It again comes back to intention, discipline and commitment. Lack any of these and you are just deluding yourself with false hope and useless plans or objectives. A perfect example is New Year's Resolutions. Words folks, just words for most people.

To develop self-accountability you need the following – a plan, clear objectives, benchmarks, consequences of failure to follow your plan and yes, a reward when you reach a benchmark or achieve the goal. Every week I maintain my desired weight I reward myself with a desert. Any week I fail, well, no reward. And, everything should be in writing.

To maintain self-accountability you need to carefully evaluate your intention, ask yourself – do I really mean it? Then identify possible areas where you might have a tendency to let yourself off the hook or lose your discipline or commitment – then follow the above steps. Simple? Yes. Easy, No. If it was, everyone would achieve enduring success regardless of how they choose to define it.

Make ita tremendous year, In His service, Tim

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Marketing & Sales,Website,AdvertisingMHSpeakerTrainer-Manager
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Divine Delays

July 25th, 2012 No comments

Weekly TimBit – Divine Delays

During a speaking trip to Ireland last year to speak to a sales conference, my host shared with me one of the concepts that his father shared with him during his lifetime. I won't mention his name in the event he would want to remain anonymous but he will know I am not taking credit for this idea. John shared with me that there were over 3000 people at his father's funeral. His father truly positively touched many lives while he was alive.

John said to me, "If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans." I gotta tell you, I just love this line. Now, I never knew John's father so I can't possibly know what he meant by that line so the best I can do is give it my interpretation.

Coincidentally I have been reading a great book by Brenda Ireland (she's not Irish) called – "What is God Waiting For?" In the book she discusses the simple idea of Divine Delays. What's a Divine Delay? Well it's when we set goals, make plans and work towards objectives and nothing happens, rather it doesn't happen when we think it should or the way we want it to.

As I look back over my life I can tell you that God must be laughing a lot. For years I have asked, told him, begged, groveled, pleaded – you name it – and I did this why? Cause It was what I thought I wanted or needed at the time. Well, I really did want it, but maybe getting it either when or how I asked for it wasn't in my long-term best interests or His ultimate plan for my life. I'm not talking here about fate, luck or destiny or even religion just how we live our life from one day to the next.

All I can say is, "God, I am glad I was able to bring a little laughter into your routines because of my pleas and ravings."

I believe in planning. I believe in setting goals and I believe in having objectives, but in the end there are many things that can have an uncertain impact on what the final picture of our life will look like and when or how.

Health issues.
Economic issues. 
Uncontrollables.something better 
Career issues.
Business issues.
Family issues.
And more can all impact our life outcomes and plans.

One of my favorite authors is Dan Millman. Dan is the author of several books but his most famous one is "The Way of The Peaceful Warrior". There were many tidbits that struck me as invaluable as I read this book the first time, but the major concept I took from this – that has stayed with me all these years is, 'release the expected and embrace the unexpected'. Put another way by another of my favorite authors, Oswald Chambers is, "The only thing that is certain in life is it's uncertainty." I'll leave the rest up to you . .

But let me finish with a great concept – "Sometimes God doesn't give you what you think you want. Not because you don't deserve it but because you deserve something better."

Make ita tremendous year, In His service, Tim

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What’s Really Important in Life

June 20th, 2012 No comments
 Weekly TimBit – Life's vital ingredients

Think about it – what's really important in life to feel content, peaceful, fulfilled, happy and valued?

I believe there are just seven vital things everyone needs and wants to achieve the above. Yes there are many others and I'm sure some of you would expand on my list but I ask you to consider for just a moment how important these are for you. And these are not in any special order;

Love
Happiness
Fun
Freedom
Relationships
Achievements
Acceptance

I'm confident many of you would include; money, success, a career or satisfying work, health, pleasure and oh so many more and wonder why I didn't include them, but when you are on your deathbed what do you think will really matter to you? Let's take a brief look at these seven.

Love

Survey after survey indicates that the number one thing people want in life is to feel love and or to be able to share love with someone special or others. Happiness is always near the top but consider – generally how happy are you when you are alone and feel disconnected? I'm not referring here to romantic love, but it is or can be included in this need. Why is love so important to each of us whether it's family or friends? Quite simple really – when we truly feel loved unconditionally we feel complete, whole and valued. When we show or express our love to others this also gives us many of the same feelings or benefits.

Happiness

Everyone wants to be happy; the problem is everyone defines happiness uniquely depending on the various aspects of their life. To some – happiness is financial freedom and to others it's being in love. Some people feel happy when they are having fun while others are happiest when they are accepted by others. Many people define happiness as just being free to control their life and its circumstances.
And many people feel extreme happiness when they are doing good, achieving or are successful. Note that happiness for most people always depends on something
else? True happiness is nothing external, but when it is enduring and not a short term feeling, it must be from internal; values, beliefs, self-acceptance, self-love and self-respect.

Fun

Fun and pleasure are two different things. Fun is when you can laugh, play, and enjoy whatever you are doing. Yes, work can be fun. Gardening can be fun and even washing the car can be fun. The problem is most people define fun as when they are doing something that is generally defined as – fun. Watching your favorite team on television, dancing the night away, being on vacation etc. Here's the problem – Many people do not have enough fun on vacation for any number of reasons. Many people watching their favorite team lose isn't fun and dancing the night away with your significant other when he or she would rather be doing something else most likely won't be fun. Get my drift? Fun isn't want you are doing it's the mindset you bring to what you are doing.

Freedom

In America we enjoy the freedoms that were given to us by our founders and the sacrifices of many people since then. The problem is that the bigger government becomes – more and more of our simple freedoms seem to be being taken from us. This is not meant to be a criticism of any individual or group but on each of us for allowing this trend to continue. Freedom is simply the right to choose. What we eat, where we live, what we do and how we behave as long as our decisions and actions do not have a negative impact on others. Freedom is vital for happiness – yes the freedom to succeed and the freedom to fail. The freedom to destroy ourselves with bad behaviors and the freedom to treat our mind, body and spirit with respect and love.

Relationships

Each of us has a variety of relationships with family, friends, customers, neighbor's even total strangers that cross our path briefly. Each relationship is unique and defined by the mutual feelings of both people. When I speak in front of an audience of 500 people I have a unique relationship with each of them – some I get to know – others just introduce themselves to me when I am finished speaking. You have many relationships with many different people. Yes some of them are more important, needed and more fulfilling than others but without these relationships consider what your life would be like?

Achievements

Achievements whatever they are from – building a work shed in your back yard to becoming famous by developing your talent and desires. Achievement is simply doing something that makes us feel good about ourselves. Achievements whether raising good children or volunteering at the local soup kitchen can be considered acts of services for others. The shed in your yard is seen as valuable by your spouse. Volunteering makes you feel valuable to those less fortunate. But in the end any achievement is not about fame, wealth, success or power but in the service of others.

Acceptance

Acceptance of others – for many – equals the ability to accept themselves first. When other's acceptance is needed or sought after – is usually due to your lack of inner security, low self-esteem or negative mindsets. Before other's acceptance of you will have any true meaning, you must first learn to accept yourself for who you were, are and are becoming. This is not an easy task for many people due to their early negative conditioning and upbringing. It can take years to confront and overcome many of the emotional wounds that were inflicted on us by caregivers, teachers, religious leaders etc. So search we do for others to accept us for our flaws, failures and often dysfunctional personality.

Make it a tremendous year,
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Learn to see the world in its true light

January 4th, 2012 No comments

Weekly Quote

“Learn to see the world in its true light, for it will enable you to live pleasantly, to do good and when summoned away, leave without regret.” Robert E Lee

Weekly TimBit

Thinking, feeling, acting As 2012 begins and I consider all of the disappointments, mistakes and achievements and unrealized dreams of the past 12 months I have to wonder how are my attitudes, behaviors, expectations, beliefs and feelings contributing to my life outcomes. Over the years I have written over 2 million words, spoken to over a million people around the globe and have spent more time than I care to admit on self-evaluation and I still don’t have all of the answers I would like to enjoy true inner peace, contentment and enduring happiness. Why?

Each of us has a number of things driving us toward or away from happiness and inner peace. These include but are not limited to; achievements, successes, judgments, opinions, beliefs, feelings, expectations and thoughts. During the past few months I have read several books that have helped on this inner journey. One of them was Cushnir’s book, Setting Your Heart on Fire. In it he shares several inner life invitations that we can embrace or postpone but their postponement only ensures more of the same disappointments in life that many of us feel.

The mind with its thoughts and thought processes is a wonderful organ. It either rules our life – our memories, present moments and future or we attempt to control it. Feelings are wonderful life signposts that help us get in touch with who we are, what we want, what we want to avoid and how to live a life of happiness and inner peace.

I am coming to realize that I need to pay far more attention to my feelings than my thoughts as my thoughts are almost always ruled by ego, control, wants, needs and the desire to create life as I want it to be. On the other hand my feelings are almost always an accurate assessment of what is really going on in my world. We have a choice – let our lives be ruled by mental activities or by emotional feelings. Too many people resist or deny their feelings. I know people who won’t allow themselves to cry in public for fear of ridicule or to be seen as weak. I know people who let past negative experiences prevent them from embracing fully what is and can be now or in the future. I know people who stuff feelings for fear of coming across as insecure or weak. I know people who let past memories and their interpretation of them prevent them from embracing the potential of a new relationship or career and the exciting adventure ahead we call life. I have been guilty of all of these and I can tell you – it’s not fun or a pretty picture.

I thought I was doing a good job of living life from my heart instead of my mind, but I was recently made aware of how little progress I have really made by someone who I respect and like but will remain anonymous. During a recent conversation with her I realized that my primary challenge in life was learning to love myself unconditionally regardless of my failures and mistakes (and there have been a bunch of them) and that almost all of my life’s heartaches both now and in the past could be brought back to this simple premise. I desire validation, appreciation and love, but have never felt I had enough of any of them because I was unable to give them to myself because for some hidden reason I believed I wasn’t worthy of them. Please understand – this is not a confession or a cathartic exercise on my part, but a sharing in the hope that as you begin a new year in your life that maybe my awareness might help you along the path to greater inner peace.

I don’t know about you and what your demons, regrets or disappointments are, but I can tell you, you’ll never find peace and happiness as long as you let your mind rule your life and try to ignore or avoid your feeling body..

Make it a great week and a tremendous new year,  In His service, Tim

 

How a person’s life can change from one minute to the next

December 14th, 2011 No comments

Weekly Quote

“But what minutes! Count them by sensation, and not by calendars, and each moment is a day.” Disraeli

Weekly TimBit – Life changing moments.

Ever notice how a person’s life can change from one minute to the next?

1. A loved one passes away. And you think about all of the unspoken words and undone deeds.

2. Say the words ‘I Do,’ and your life is never the same.

3. A car accident – bang.

4. Your first child peeks his/her head out from the safety of the womb and, bingo, you are a parent for the rest of your life.

5. Those fateful words: “You are fired.”

6. The weather tears away at the fabric of your home, leaving a pile of debris in its wake.

7. You read and re-read the numbers on your lottery ticket in misbelief.

8. The Doctor says – “you have cancer.”

9.The Doctor says – “you are cured.”

There are many other positive and negative life-changing minutes in life. Yes, I understand that when you say “I Do,” there were most likely months or even years of courting, and when you hear your child’s first cry there were months of anxious waiting and excitement, but these actual events seldom take more than a few minutes to actually happen. And then your life is never the same.

I have experienced many positive and negative life-changing minutes during my 60 plus years of traveling down the highways of life, and I can tell you that from my perspective one can never really know the full and total consequences or impact of these life-changing minutes – whether it is as a parent of a child, a business owner, or the son or daughter of a parent who has left this earth plane. So, Tim, what is your point in this article?

I am asking you to grasp the importance of every critical life moment because you never know . . . . Each one can bring with it a series of new consequences, challenges, opportunities, and decisions. Make these decisions carefully when you can, recognizing that in the end, each of us is responsible for our own destiny and how it is defined by us and the world and the quality of our lives and what we take from this life and what we give back to it. Yes, there are many events that occur in our lives that are beyond our ability to control or understand. But, we can still learn to live with acceptance, passion, freedom and patience regardless of the impact of these events in our lives.

The adventure of life is just that, an adventure. It brings with it surprises, lessons, failures, people who impact our attitudes and behavior, uncertainty, opportunity and lots and lots of questions. But, in the end each of us will be held accountable by life not just for how we lived it, but who we helped, what we shared, who we scorned and what we left undone. Relish the moments of your life – each and every one of them. Because the rest of your life could change forever – in the next minute!

Question for the week

Are you living life fully – one minute at a time? Recommended Reading Stake Your Claim, Fox Make it a great week, In His service, Tim