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The value of pain

June 4th, 2013 No comments

No one likes pain: emotional, physical or spiritual pain.  Each of us wants to sail through life from birth to death without ever having:

-been betrayed.
-been abandoned.
-been lied to.
-had insurmountable problems.
-risked it all and lost.
-been disappointed.
-And this list goes on and on and on.

I for one know the value of pain.  I have had my share during my life.  I know the pain of loss, failure, abandonment and all of the ones on the list plus a few.  You too have had some kind of pain, I guarantee it.  I don’t care how old or young you are – no one escapes this teaching tool that life uses to – soften us, humble us, mold us, take the arrogance or fear from us or just teach us there is a more for us to do in this life, and we can’t do it until our rough edges have been smoothed out.

Those of you who have reached this day without any significant pain in your life are missing – so far – a wonderful opportunity for growth.  Now, I am well aware it is difficult to convince someone that a divorce, loss of a loved one or a job or any other adversity is a blessing and an opportunity to grow.  However, having spent my life travelling through these many years and having the wonderful privilege of meeting thousands of people around the world, I have come to a conclusion:  sooner or later everyone who has experienced some form of pain, when they look back on it, agree that it was a time of testing, yes, but a time of growth and learning as well. Here are a few of the benefits of pain that I have learned over the years.   Pain:

1. Introduces you to who you really are.
2. Let’s you have a peek into the future.
3. Releases great creativity.
4. Begins the healing process.
5. Is a signal that something needs to change.
6. Helps you see that you have choices.
7. Gives you the opportunity to grow or remain stuck.
8. Is impersonal.  It isn’t picking on any one group or individual.
9. Develops in you the capacity to handle more pain in the future.
10. Helps keep you focused in the present moment.

Don’t ever deaden the pain you are feeling.  Get in touch with it.  Feel it. Understand it.  Learn from it.  Use it. And then move on through it. Then let it go.

Let me conclude with a lesson I learned from one of my mentors – Eric Butterworth.

When in the depths of financial despair years ago as a speaker and author he shared a simple lesson with me through his writing.  He said, “The greatest times of creativity in your life can come during periods of personal pain.  Use these times to release all that you are and all you can do.”

I have written over 75 books but after writing my first one in 1981 (Soft Sell – which today is still the number one best-selling book in the world in 25 languages) I wrote nothing for fifteen years.  After Eric’s counsel the flood gate opened and I have averaged writing 3-4 books a year.  Not all have come from periods of pain, but he showed me how to use all emotional states whether positive or negative, to use them in a positive way.

Experiencing pain today?  Use it for growth. His book that helped me is titled – ‘In The Flow of Life’ (It’s still in print.  Read it if you are going through any pain in your life.)


“Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.”


Read any books lately that set you on fire?

March 7th, 2012 No comments
Since I was old enough to understand the simple concept of OPE (other people's experience) I have read every book I could get my hands on to try and find and remain on the road to a happy, peaceful and successful life. To date I have read over 3000 books – not bragging here, I just want to say that of all of these books, 20 stand out as some of my all-time favorites that had and still have a significant impact on some area of my life. Yes, there are many more great books than the 20 I have listed below, but I will make you a promise – if you will read just one of them (if you haven't already) I will guarantee your life will never be the same – in a positive way. So here are the 20 in no particular order of importance or value.
A few of these are out of print, but are still available on Amazon in the  used book section.
What Happy people Know, Dan Baker
This book gives you all of the vital tools to find true happiness.
The Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman
This book shares a simple concept that few people consider when searching for inner peace.
Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill
One of the all time best selling books that shares 13 principles for enduring success.
The Power of Patience, P. J Ryan
A powerful look at one of the vital attitudes for success, health and happiness.
In The Flow of Life, Eric Butterworth
One of the most engaging and real books about spiritual truth.
Brain Rules, John Medina
Want to know why you can't change something in your life?
Unconditional Love, John Powell
Why love is the number one thing in people's lives that seldom is realized.
The Voice of Knowledge, Miguel Ruiz
This book will change the way you think and what you think about.
The Choice, Og Mandino
Og is one of the all-time most revered authors and this is one of my favorites.
Wake-Up Calls, Eric Allenbaugh
We all need a 2×4 every now and then. This book will wake you up to what really matters in life.
As A Man Thinketh, James Allen
Read this powerful book and your life will never be the same.
Nasty People, Jay Carter
A quick read, only 75 pages but it will have a dramatic impact on how you treat others.
The Bible
This book has the answers to all of life's challenges, goals and purpose.
The Reason Why, Robert Laidlaw
Written over 100 years ago and still as relevant today as it was then.
Man's Search For Meaning, Victor Frankl
An engaging, powerful and vital read for anyone who needs a wake-up Call
The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran
This book gives you the opportunity to look at life in an entirely new way.
The Richest Man in Babylon, George Clason
If you had read this before you hit the age of twenty by age 40 you would be a millionaire.
Set Your Heart on Fire, Harold Cushnir
Life is short, live it to the fullest while you can.
Waking Up In Time, Peter Russell
This book will rock your world, I guarantee it.
Jonathan Livingston Seagull, Richard Bach
This is the all-time best selling self-help book, written over 50 years ago.
I urge you to read any of the above if you are searching for inner peace, happiness or success.
Make it a great week and a tremendous year,  In His service, Tim